Wondered about how your love life affects your writing career? In this post are lessons from the Southpaw film and the list of films for writers to watch.
Let’s go DEEP!
We have a lot of films today – the bad and the good ones all in the play. I don’t hate films or movies but I’m always intentional about what I watch; what I give my time, my life. I study films with the passion to learn; the drive to get great lessons and teaching about life and how we manage our existence on earth.
People are crazy and sometimes they want to have you ganged up to join the circle. Don’t try to pull in. Get off and go home. The moment your husband, wife, friend or relation says “baby let’s go home,” do that immediately and back off. If you fail to back off you may cause a pain that lasts forever without gain.
Why am I saying this to you? Life is going to put a lot of shit to your face. People will try to hold you down; they will work to have you pulled thru your weakness. If you hate chickens they are going to try to put that on your face to get a reaction or feedback. When this happens don’t let them pull through; don’t allow other people control your emotions. You are who makes you who you are.
On Saturday, 3rd March 2018 I had to put myself together and capture how well my day went. I visited a friend, had fun and worked on a client’s book. Some folks showed up, greetings exchanged and then I’m home.
I’m not a fan of keeping movies I don’t think I’m going to watch anytime soon in my PCs video folder. A lot of my friends save up movies for the consumption of others who may find interest. Whatever movie I don’t find great, or that which doesn’t relate to what I do, I delete.
I’m bad like that and I owe nobody apologies for deleting documents from my drive. I had this film I scanned through the other day. It didn’t get my fancy yet I can’t really tell why I didn’t delete this movie all this while.
The movie is by name “Southpaw” and when I finally watched this movie I stand to say it is phenomenal. It is the kind of movie every home needs. Everyone needs to watch this – the married, single, dating, kids or children. I had a whole lot of thoughts run through my mind after I watch the last fight between Bill Hope and Miguel Escobar for the LIGHT HEAVYWEIGHT TITLE.
How does the movie “Southpaw” relate to your writing career?
Films about writers often give me an extra boost of inspiration and motivation. But, Southpaw was exceptional, not for only writers though.
I get to be asked by some folks, “Prince what kind of movies should a writer watch?”
Southpaw is a 2015 American sports drama film directed by Antoine Fuqua, written by Kurt Sutter and starring Jake Gyllenhaal, Forest Whitaker, and Rachel McAdams.
The film follows a boxer who sets out to get his life back on track after losing his wife in an accident and his young daughter to protective services. The film was released on July 24, 2015, by The Weinstein Company.
Billy “The Great” Hope (Jake Gyllenhaal), the reigning junior middleweight boxing champion, has an impressive career, a loving wife and daughter, and a lavish lifestyle. Seeing someone on the big screen struggling to craft their story reminds me that writing is a process. There will be ups and downs, but we have to keep striving forward.
So today I’m sharing with you how your love life can affect your writing career and what you should do if you already made a mistake of choosing who to love.
As a plus, I’ll list some films for writers and about writing that I’ve enjoyed which you can glean some lessons from.
How your Love Life Can Affect your Writing Career
In Billy’s case, it was his boxing career. Losing his wife Rachel McAdams caused a big harm to his career. He found himself in thorns where he couldn’t move forward, but to lose his mind.
Writers are ridiculously in touch with their feelings. So much so that it can ruin every bit of love they try to create and hold onto, and to love one inevitably means to be part of that ruin.
Billy lost focus and the boost to continue his career when his love “wife” was out of the earth. He craved for revenge and for his friends he wanted nobody around. It feels bad to lose a loved one.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved one.
There’s regret, there’s guilt, and there is an extreme feeling of loss that could never, EVER, EVER, be replaced. But when you think of her, as a person rather than a lost loved one, and all of the moments the two of you have shared together, each and every lovely memory will flood through your mind.
Words unleashed by the force of emotions are dangerous. They can kill, they can save a life. Billy loved his wife hence he could kill almost anyone to get her back. He reignited his boxing career after several pieces of training by making the decision to go back to the ring thereby saving the life of his daughter who was taken away from him.
Billy’s Wife Plans For Him
Billy lost track of records. He couldn’t plan for himself and things turned aside. As a writer, whether you are married or not you need to make plans for yourself. Even if a third party should be involved, you are to make the plans and have they reviewed what you wrote.
When others make plans for you, your life may turn out to be like that of Billy. When the loved one is gone, you lose focus. You turn out to become a badass procrastinator. Deals are being lost; contracts were taken away.
Taking Responsibility for His Life
Billy was a responsible man yet he did some things wrong. A question was asked on Viktor Frankl’s Logotherapy – what characterizes responsibility?
Comment #1: Characteristics of responsibility are going beyond the call of duty, doing the right thing even when no-one is watching, seeing things through, owning up to mistakes (that’s a hard one).
Comment #2: The characteristic of a responsible person is someone who dares makes a commitment and then follows through.
What commitments are you making as a writer? Have you taken the responsibility of your career or you are waiting for an external force that will push you to serve?
Turning yourself into a responsible person is not impossible it just requires that you change bad habits and remain persistent. It requires you make good plans for yourself and stick to them
Becoming a responsible person means being able to consciously make decisions, conduct behaviors that seek to improve one and/or help others. Most importantly, a responsible person accepts the consequences of his or her own actions and decisions.
Ability To Control His Emotion
Sometimes when you are lost in love you find it difficult to control your emotions. Billy got mad at his lost love. She was dead and can’t live again. The good moments they had lived all through his mind. Remembering her death reminds him that he should have gone home after the speech he delivered.
Why should you be able to control your emotions? If a responsible person wants to make a change, they do it. And they’re able to do it because of self-discipline.
Controlling your emotions is definitely a learned trait and one that takes some work, but it is possible to have a bit more control over yourself. The first step often lies in dealing with a little bit of discomfort.
Your Career vs. Love Life
True love is difficult to come across, which is why many people are willing to lose their career for it. When deciding whether or not to give up your career, you need to look at a variety of aspects.
Could you ever forgive yourself for passing up an amazing opportunity for the benefit of someone else? Will you resent your partner eventually? How you handle your love life over your career can be of great harm or benefit.
We can elect to have both a career and a relationship, but it’s never easy. It comes down to how hard you are willing to fight for both or one over the other. As careers advance, promotions become available that may have a negative impact on your relationship. Some people have the ability to balance both fluidly, but many cannot.
Can you choose your career over your love life? Everything in the world is worthless until we attach our hearts to it. When deciding whether to give up your career you need to look at what is important to you.
If your heart and soul lie within your career, stick with it, but if your heart is in your relationship then that’s the route you need to take. As long as you pick the option that is meaningful to you, you will not regret it.
Look at this saying by Lady Gaga:
“Some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore”- Lady Gaga
Understood the saying above? Choose the right things, buddy.
List of Movies About Writing for Writers
Whether it is a novel or a newspaper, writing holds a distinct fascination, both for those who do it, and those who feel that they never could. There have been a vast number of films over the years that make writers and the writing processes their focus – from true-life biopics to fictitious thrillers, hack journalists to tortured artists, and at home bloggers to uber-rich screenwriters.
Some films simply include the job of writing as an element of a character, but much more make the writing process integral to the plot. It makes sense – after all, what does a screenwriter know well than what it’s like to write?
- The Ghost Writer: This film is about a ghost writer, hired to complete the memoirs of a former British Prime Minister, and uncovers secrets that put his own life in jeopardy.
- Finding Forrester: This film explores the sometimes tumultuous relationship that develops between a teen writing prodigy and a reclusive author played by Sean Connery. The movie shows the importance of finding a mentor who can help you grow as a writer. It also stresses the importance of sharing your work with the world.
- Ace In The Hole: This is a pretty bleak story, but one with an important message about the power of words and the responsibility of the writer to be honest about the stories he tells. It seems especially relevant now more than ever as we see the Internet flooded with emotionally manipulative articles with click-bait headlines.
- I Capture the Castle: In this film, you’ll find not only love, desperation and the decay of a once great family but also the frustration that comes with not being able to match the success garnered by a first novel.
- Midnight In Paris: While on a trip to Paris with his fiancée’s family, a nostalgic screenwriter finds himself mysteriously going back to the 1920s every day at midnight. He falls in love with the city and thinks they should move there after they get married, but Inez does not share his romantic notions of the city or the idea that the 1920s were the golden age. In all seriousness, though, the movie shows the importance of studying the greats
- Sideways: While wine is the main focus of this film, one of its main characters is a man frustrated and unable to get his seemingly very good novel published–something many writers can relate to.
- Stranger Than Fiction: I’m including this movie just because it’s fun to watch if you write fiction. There’s not a lot of writing advice, but it does show how the characters in your books often take on a life of their own. Don’t be too attached to the first draft of your novel or your original plot. The final draft might end up looking completely different and be all the better for it.
- In a Lonely Place: Get a noir vibe in this film about the trials and defeats that sometimes come along with being a writer, with Humphrey Bogart’s down-on-his-luck Dixon Steele as the leading man.
- Moulin Rouge: Moulin Rouge is a fusion of two fabulous films into one. A film of images capable of conveying meaning without dialog or music, and a film which you could feel and understand without needing to see it. A poet falls for a beautiful courtesan whom a jealous duke covets. Much effort was obviously spent on both the visual and audio aspects of this film, and by choosing not to focus on one over the other, and sacrifice the songs for the story or vice versa, the filmmakers were able to make a truly unique, modern musical which those of us who have hated musical since childhood could enjoy.
- Misery: This film strikes fear into the heart of every serial novelist out there, with Kathy Bates playing a crazed fan unhappy that her favorite writer has decided to kill off her beloved character.
- Wonder Boys: This film focuses on a professor and writer Grady Tripp who can’t seem to get past his writer’s block to make anything of note, and progresses as his life, career and writing spin wildly out of control.
- Barton Fink: John Turturro gives an amazing performance as the screenwriter Barton Fink, who faces writer’s block as he attempts to write the script for a wrestling picture and descends into a world of chaos as he begins connecting with the other residents of the hotel.
- Adaptation: This film explores two difficulties of writing–having too much creative freedom and working on a project without much passion–with an insight and vulnerability that make it one of the best on-screen depictions of writing out there.
- The Front: This film will take you back to the McCarthy Era when writers were blacklisted for their real or imagined connections with the communist party. In it, Woody Allen plays a man who agrees to be the front for a group of writers still trying to work.
- Sunset Boulevard: In this noir film, a struggling screenwriter agrees to write a comeback script for an actress in the twilight of her career. When he falls for another screenwriter, jealousy, wrath and even murder come into play. This is easily one of the best films of all time. The film shows the devastating consequences when someone wastes their talent and becomes distracted from pursuing their dreams. It’s worth watching just for that reason alone. It also has a lot to say about not becoming a sellout. Gillis knows that Desmond’s screenplay is going to be a flop, but he stays with her just for the money.
If you’re a professional writer yourself or just a college student training to be one, you can translate your love of the craft into a night of entertainment with these great movies based on writers.
You’ll find intriguing real-life stories, movies that show the sometimes frustrating nature of writing, and a great collection of movies about the trials and tribulations of fictional writers themselves.
Why would you even want to be with someone who does not want to push and motivate you to succeed? I have always believed that in order to be happy in a relationship you need to be happy with yourself first.
How can you ever be truly happy knowing you sacrificed your career for a guy or girl? Your contributions are highly contributed. Let’s hear your thoughts.